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How To Love - An Artists Necessity

Updated: Dec 27, 2021

When this topic entered my Amygdala, I didn’t realize that Valentines Day would be just around the corner. But since it is; this topic is well timed.

When you see a band perform and at the end of the concert they say

We Love You! - insert popular or back road city here”

What do they mean by that? I’ve always wondered. Is it just a cordial thing to say? I believe some but I’m doubtful of others. Anyway, what we’re going to look at today is Love in music. How does love benefit you as an artist?

I could give you a safe preamble and ease you into the thick of this B(L)og post. Yeah I could and I’d rather not. So let’s set the pace by going straight into the goods.

Sex Art & Love Misconstrued

The ground rules are as follows:

A man acting like a woman has nothing to do with feminine expression or energy.

A woman acting like a man has nothing to do with masculine expression or energy.

We’ll revisit the above in a few paragraphs. Hold tight!

They are both distorted assimilations. Convincing enough at first glance to appear logical and thus go unchallenged and unscrutinised, gracefully sneaking by examination via it’s effectiveness at misdirecting the general public. Which if truly examined would expose it for what it is.

Exploitation of hyper/forced masculinity (which isn’t masculine at all), penis envy/feminism (which isn’t feminine at all), homosexuality, bisexuality, trans-sexuality, homoerotic humor, pornographic and pedophilia (Yes pedophilia! What do you think all these child molestation daytime talk shows are acclimatizing the global stage for?) the whole deal.

All have been among other things, hidden under the guise of artistic freedom. This is far too obvious and forced and ultimately has nothing to do with the definitive state of any of those classifications. It’s dumbed down and assumes stupidity. It’s human perversion in rare form. All incredibly effective at eradicating…………. Love!

By the way any human state that was created by a government action, corporation or organization is a general indicator of an attempt to corrupt, control and exploit anyone who’s willing to allow it.

Worst of all those who have been misguided by this perception will defend this thought process through lawful action and prosecution if necessary! Lovely isn’t it?

And for the robot thinkers out there; all living beings have a masculine and feminine principle present in them. The presence of one doesn’t denote the absence of the other. D‘accord!?

Good. Moving on….

So is there a difference between love and sex? Yes.

Sex can and commonly does occur without the presence of love. You knew that I know, however the common more appropriate term for sexual lovemaking is understood generally as sex! Now the full definition if the two are present is “sexual intercourse between to people who love each other”. Now that truly is rare. Even if two people love each other; Sex instigated by and as a result of love isn’t generally common. In fact, not only is it rare; We as a society have gone as far as to disregard it as possible in most cases and simply refer to that act as “passionate sex”! Now why is that?

Well. For the same reason we’d rather have liposuction than practice a healthy lifestyle. The same reason we play the lottery over the pursuit of creating wealth. The same reason most people can’t even have sex unless they ingest some form of pornographic provocation. The same reason condoms and birth control exist. The answer? Here’s a spoiler. The lack of Love!

A little more SEX Ed.

For those reading in the future. In many countries we are currently experiencing a health issue recognized under the name COVID-19. While it is manageable; many countries have limited human interactions by way of quarantining its citizens to their homes if possible. As you can imagine this has negatively affected the lively hood of many. To go further this has compromised the jobs of many traveling artists. Effectively removing them from their source of money. Many of these so-called “artists” have now been laid bare in exchange for their true identify. And with the rug pulled up from under them they’ve taken up a new trade. Sexual debauchery disguised as art!

There’s been quite a few DJ’s turn-sex workers as of late. We’re encouraged to refrain from calling it that however. Calling it art is preferable.

And now you can see the strangeness of it all.

Definition Please! sexuality noun: the sexual habits and desires of a person

Can you have sexuality in art? Of course!

Can you have love art and sexuality? Yep!

Can you have dysfunctional repressed sexual desires that ought to be addressed by a practicing professional carelessly shoehorned into an artistic framework? Onlyfans anyone?

I Don’t Get It! Why Did You Even Bring Up Sex Again?

To recapitulate. Love has been used as an excuse to use sexual misconduct in many modern artworks of our time. It offers a work that would typically be categorized as pornographic but duplicitously branded as artistic as to avoid the stigma of the prior. That reasoning is dishonest, scandalous and harmful to the integrity of music as an art form.

Alright Well What Is Love Then?

Love is the following and more:

· Nurturing

· Care

· Attentiveness

· Seeing what needs to be done before it happens

· Expression

· The absence of language within or without language!

· Preparing and looking after anything in it’s infant stages until it has matured.

· Being in tune with the unspoken language of life

· to feel passion, devotion, or tenderness for

· to hold dear

· positive regard for something

· a feeling of strong or constant regard for and dedication to someone/thing

Well What About What You Said In The Beginning? I Didn’t Like That!

Learning How to express a feminine principle through a feminine frame is love!

Learning How to express a feminine principle through a masculine frame is love!

Love is the territory of the feminine principle! Period point blank!

Love is a healthy base for great art.

Told you we’d revisit it. We also clarified it as well!

Oh Mommy Dearest

Have you ever watched a mother look after her newborn? She seems to know what her baby wants even before they show any indication of needing it. She understands what each cry means, each yawn, gurgle, each movement, Everything. That is Love! Once you know what it is it’s hard to mistake it for anything else!

Defending Art

As a traditional artist. Our value slowly over time has diminished as a result of our willingness to accept the inclusion of anything that could be classified as art. Since art is subjective that means “all things” can be thrown in the mix. Traditional Artists are truly nowhere to be found at first glance. The potency of art is hard to find. So the public at large who are typically oblivious to what’s happening find themselves consuming whatever is liberally presented to them, ultimately leaving them unsatisfied. They don’t know why. All they know is that they constantly have the need to consume more so-called “art” to feel creatively edified. This by the way is great for commerce. I really shouldn’t be against that should I?

The big picture points to us (yeah you too!) not defending art. We don’t remind everyone including ourselves how integral art is to the well-being of human life. We’ve been neglecting that for a while and if you haven’t noticed, art in all of its forms have essentially become free.

Did you see that coming? We all did and we didn’t do much about it. Probably because we as artists consume art as well; And free is a hard option to pass up. Even if it’s to our very own detriment. Ultimately we don’t love art the way we ought to. If we did, we would never leave it as neglected as it has been over the past few decades.

How Love Balances the Economical Scales

It is fundamentally difficult to allow something you love or created in love come under any threat or harm. Either we’ve somehow become accustomed to doing so or we don’t truly consider the art we create as something we love.

Whether the former or the latter the solution is the same. To incorporate the natural definition and practices of love into our music. It’s a checkmate position in your favour. Once you love your music. You’ll naturally have a difficult time devaluing it. Additionally, if you incorporate the principles of love into your music. You’ll definitely become a far better artist than you were before. Lastly your music will influence other artist to do the same as well as completely satisfy the world as a lasting contribution to the art from! Win! Win! Win! W’s all over the place!!!

True Love in Music

This is a necessity in my view. To be critical for a moment; As a result of my profession I’ve seen so many artists challenged by the lack of impact or even significance in their musical efforts. They make the music, and even they feel like ignoring it. Why? Well I’m sure you know the answer by now but what’s more interesting is why haven’t they figured it out yet? This can get pretty deep and we’re just not going to go there today; However ultimately a lack of love in music points to a general dismissive outlook on the concept of love by that individual. Yep!


So having a healthy outlook on love allows us to apply characteristically intense care to our music. An effort to make sure that all the needs of your musical arrangement is met so that when it is sent of to the public it is safe, secure, well groomed and healthy with its lunch and snacks packed with care. This is typically how a loving artist views their work.


When working on any musical piece a true act of love is to truly know when something doesn’t belong; Even if it’s something that we personally think is amazing. The individual desires of the human ego are temporarily curtailed for the interest of the song. Ironically one of the biggest things that plague the music of the unskilled musician is the tasteful use of sounds and when to use or omit them. Could love rectify that? Um……. yeah!


This is a big one as well. Communicating with the soul of a listener starts with the observation of the subconscious behaviour of people in general. If you can detect how people feel before they verbally or physically communicate it; you’re in there like swimwear! This is what music excels at doing! It instigates the subconscious mind. Let me put it another way; It bypasses the conscious barriers that the mind puts in place that normally make sure we act appropriately in everyday life. Like alcohol, music cuts through the cue, past the mental security guards and skips right into the playground that is your brain! In a much safer and positive way!


It’s not all esoteric mystical intuitiveness. In music there is time for games. For tricks and treats! Music is fun! Remember? It’s nursery rhymes, bedtime stories and riddles. And you can bet your bottom dollar that wherever there’s love, there’s laughter. We have to remember that playfulness has a very important place in music. Especially for songwriters!


This of course spills over into the work environment as well. Whether scattered or orderly; A sense of deliberacy (yeah it’s a word) can be seen in the organizational layout of recording studios of an artists who love their job.

As above so below!

Remember to apply all of the above to your own existence because loving your music starts with loving yourself.

Love as a Listener

I’ve witnessed and spoken to so many people who love music and one thing I know for sure is when they say "I love music", they mean it. They can’t even hide it! They use music in almost every aspect of their lives from a soundtrack for their day to their emotional councilor and motivational gym coach. This only speaks to the positive effects music has on human beings.

How many times has music kept someone from making a fatal decision? Yes, I’m speaking of suicide. Self-harm at the very least. How many babies have been born on account of a single song? How many relationships have been created because of music? Could you imagine a wedding with no music? How about a day? Okay one month? A year? You’d probably prefer jail with an album collection of your choice instead. Well here’s the thing. On the flipside, I’ve run into many artists but they for sure don’t express the same sentiments regarding music at all! Do we as musicians see our talent for music as a burden rather than a gift? Could be. No matter what, we could really take a lesson from the people who simply listen to music and love every bit of the experience we provide them.

The Alternatives

Hate, Fear, Sadness, Disappointment, Pain. Do you know how many artists use these as the basis for their music? A lot! You know why they do it? Because it also can yield some great results! The intensity that negative energy can produce can’t be denied. So here’s the problem. Using these also are degenerative to the human optimal state. If you want to erode yourself in a hurry. Maintain any negative mental state as your status quo.

What’s frightening is that this sort of Martyrism is heralded as some sort of authentic outlook for artists to adopt. How many deaths/suicides have we witnessed as a result of the maladjusted mental states of our artists? Only to turn around and deify them and their music in death, knowing that they were suffering in life.

You may say to yourself; Well how was I supposed to know they were suffering? I didn’t know them personally.

Yeah you did! It was front and centre in their music and you loved every bit of it!

You’re not the only one we all have done it!

Furthermore. Energy transfer is real! What these artists send out influences people. The same energy that’s hurting them has the potential to hurt those that are exposed to their music. Whether passively or intentionally it doesn’t matter. The end result is same.


That’s the absence of Love. Sadly, we’re more familiar with expressing it than we ought to be. As a matter of fact, in today's world fear is the gateway to the rest of the not so desirable states of being.

Definition of fear: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.

Love and fear cannot exist together in the same space. When you love anything there is no fear of who knows it and there’s nothing fearful enough to stop you from loving that very thing. Let’s go back to our mother child example. Can you think of anything that would stop a mother from caring for her child? Do you think there’s anything that would stop her from displaying that love? Nope there’s nothing on the market out there to stop it once she’s decided to truly love her child.

Let me re-tread by saying this. Love and fear do often exist together, but things don’t generally go well when they do long-term. For instance, we can have an intense fear to lose the things we love. Which leaves us with a choice either to make an action based in love or fear. Now that’s a genuine headache and it feels terrible to experience. Conversely with music; Once we love our creations there will be no thing and no one that could make us stop loving our music. Protecting our music. Caring for the lifecycle of our music. So for starters it’s a good bet to minimize unwarranted fear in our lives. It’s everywhere so you gotta be diligent. It’s in the movies, television, billboards; It dominates the news. Avoid it and replace it with things that enhance your ability to love.

How To Love

Begin by treating your music the same way you would treat something that you truly care about. It represents you. You’re responsible for it. It wouldn’t survive without you. You’re in control of whether it gets created or not. It simply wouldn’t exist without you. Are you willing to protect it?

What Does It Feel Like!

It can be a bit of a responsibility as you could imagine! Does that sound like too much for you? That’s the litmus test you know. That very thing defines an artist and differentiates them from someone who’s just using music as a stepping stone or as a mere hobby. If you’re prepared to exhibit love towards your music, you’ll then begin to head towards a worthwhile career.

Okay I’m Onboard But I Need Help

When aid is needed look to the remedies that the very planet you inhabit has provided you. No I’m not referring to taxing to your lungs with smoke (not that I’m judging). I’m talking Crystals!

Ah common Yohance! Not this esoteric stuff again!* I just want to make my best music. I’m not trying to become an occultist!”

I know I know; That’s not my intent. If you’re a member of any religion or belief system, you can rest assured that the use of crystals will not compromise your faith. If anything, it will strengthen it. So chill out! I’m not here to convert you! And if I were; what on earth would it be?)

*On a side note. Just for the record, the widely accepted act of smoking is an esoteric ritualistic practice.

Now if you’re not up to speed on crystals and why their helpful, I’d recommend you listen to Episode 68 - Why Crystals Can Help You - The Samplers Podcast Beyond that, for a crystal that resonates with the heart and specifically Love, the best option is Rose Quartz! It’s a very mild penetrating crystal that will aid in dissolving anything that would be preventing you from experiencing love as well as enhancing your ability to love unconditionally. You can get a piece of rose quartz in any crystal store and is pretty much available across the globe via online shops.

Rose quartz surrounded by some other essential crystals.

By following a few simple steps, working with crystals is easy! Simply charge/cleanse your crystal before each use by leaving it out in moonlight or sunlight overnight/day. Given that we’re discussing love here I’d recommend moonlight. After that simply place the crystal over your heart or wherever suits you. You can carry it in your pocket, on a pendant, as a ring or place it in your studio! Just keep it around you. All crystals emit and absorb their respective energies so as long as you’re in its vicinity you’ll be affected by it.

When choosing a crystal in a store simply pick the one that picks you. If it looks cool to you; then that’s your crystal!

Healthy Disclaimer: Crystals are like modular synths. Once you experience the benefits of them you’ll be inclined to bring more into your life.

Love In All

All in all; Love is a concept that’s best for all musicians to understand for themselves early on in the artistic journey. It’s an immovable foundation to base all your endeavours from. It grounds and centres everything and its reason for being can never be corrupted. Its principles extend beyond art or anything we do for that matter. If there’s anything to base your life’s work on; love is a sure bet.

I hope that you find enough of an incentive in this B(L)og post to begin loving what you create.

Thank you for reading!

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Miembro desconocido
29 abr 2021

Thank you, that made me realize how much I base my decisions from fear insteand of love. I have to reflect on that... A bit sceptical about the crystal but I may give it a go. Have a good day

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